So often in life when we meet someone new, the first thing we ask is “so, what do you do”. What we are really asking is:
* How much money do you make
* What is your status on our social hierarchy
* Are you more important than me
Shouldn’t we care more about who we are, without trying to automatically put a label on each and every person we meet. I find this very prevalent amongst other women, i feel that if my reply is:
* Iam a supportive partner to my boyfriend
* A successful household manager
* Hopefully one day an amazing mother.
That these answers will be viewed as insignificant compared to Miss:
Why is this? Is a woman who dedicates her life to her family worth less than someone else? Is our contribution to society measured by the pay check we receive at the end of each month. Im sure if i really asked a corporate woman she would tell me that her wage and job title dosn’t define her. She may love:
* Deep sea diving
But are these the first things offered up when meeting someone new? No, also they are not the first things asked. Have we as women fought so hard for equality with men outside the home that we have lost sight of our identitys? Im talking about our real identities, not our labels. Are we going to scoff or think less of our peers that choose to stay home and be the emotional backbones of their families. I personally don’t want to live in a world like that, we should celebrate the emotions, dreams and goals of our fellow women. Who are you or I to deem that ours are more important than hers, hers, or hers. I want to live in a world that has equal pay and recognition of men and women in the work place, that celebrates femininity and encourages all paths.
Iam a proud stay at home girlfriend (hopefully soon fiancé lol. Iam proud to make my partners life at home less stressful and easier as he goes out to bring home a wage.
Most women say one of two things when talking to someone like me that stays home. Either “Oh, that would drive me insane, doing NOTHING all day or “Oh that sounds nice, lucky you getting away with that”.
Both in turn undermine that woman’s role. Why do we do this? more importantly, why do we accept this? The fight of our mothers, grandmothers and their grandmothers, and in turn us and our daughters is not so that we HAVE to be.
It was and is so that we have the RIGHT to choose with freedom what we feel is right for us. With no restrictions in relation to our gender.
How lucky am i that i can choose to be a scientist, a hairdresser, a mechanic or chef, how lucky am i that i can choose to be who i have.
How sad is it that we as women do to each other exactly what we have fought so hard against. We create inequality for ourselves and to each other within our own sex. We scorn femininity unless it is sexual power used to achieve goals, we patronise mothers and celebrate proffessionals.
Iam personally going to make an effort to do my part in this new battle.
So i ask today, who are you?